It’s that time of the year again when people pop that one special question. No, not that question. The dreaded yearly question of what are your new year resolutions? It is a time where people bravely step up to declare their new intents to change for the better. Unfortunately, too often the enthusiasm shortly plummets. So how can you make them last? It’s all in the approach.
1) Avoid becoming a resolution diva
The hype surrounding new year’s resolutions is intense. Square up and get ready to flex some intention muscles because you are competing against all of humanity around the turn of the year. Piddly goals tend to be overshadowed by those that, for example, thinks they need to from no exercise at all to doing it 90 minutes a day using a DVD labeled with a warning to take breaks because it is so insane they can’t handle all the amazing. But these 0 to a million goals leaves a lot of room to get discouraged, mess up or just plain fail on.
Be reasonable when making your resolutions. If they seem unsustainable from the beginning they probably are. It may prevent you from beginning, or giving up early on.
2) Ramp it up
Just because you shouldn’t aim for a resolution akin to taking over the world in a fun-filled evening, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t make it challenging. Understand what you ultimately want to achieve. Then try setting up a plan where you slowly work toward that goal. This will help you go through a transition time, which in turn will help to make the changes last. If you want to eat better, try cutting out your after dinner ice cream every other night. Then two weeks later eat half as much ice cream on the nights you do, and so on and so forth.
It is okay to start with not practicing the hardest thing at first, but keep yourself on task. Remember you want to succeed at your resolutions in the long-term. Not succeed for a month or two and then give up because it was hard. You can build on your little successes, which will help you with larger success.
3) Draw from the past
Even though fall is a time to look back at the year and see what you’ve harvested. I like to do this also right before the end of the year. When choosing a new year’s resolution we are seeking out ways that we are inadequate and so we focus on that. But if you can focus on the successes of the past as well, you can use them as fuel for the future. Whether you are looking at them to see hey I can do this, or that you want to build on those successes, past achievements can be a great place to look when choosing your resolutions.
4) Take in the view, then make new intents
Much like previous steps, this involves taking things one step at a time. When I do a psychic reading for someone, I am looking at all the patterns and lines of probability that will occur in the future. It is not a guarantee, it is if things continue the way they have been this will happen. It’s not that I don’t believe in any fate or per-determined events, I just don’t think everything is that way. So if you can’t guarantee the future, how do you know what the best intent is for an entire year?
It is important to constantly monitor events and create intents to match what needs to happen. Intents aren’t just for one day a year. They are key goals and statements that help you to decide what life paths you need to take. Be willing and vigilant to make new intents and resolutions throughout the year as necessary. Maybe you start out with a small step, but achieve it early on. Why not create a new resolution to reach even greater heights?
5) Don’t let talk become your enemy.
This can work both ways, and the only one who can truly determine how this will work for you is you. There is one theory that using the buddy system can help you achieve your goals. Tell a buddy and they can help hold you to it. They may even be there to try that new juicer you bought to change your diet. Or encourage you to not sleep in on that lovely rainy day when you’re scheduled to jazzercise.
Anyway, talk is not always a support system, it can go against you. Studies show that people often get the same gratification from telling someone about the great things they are going to do, then if they actually did it. For example if you tell someone of your goals, and your friend praises you, that gives you a cheater mental boost. For some that may help, but for many they got the reward, why actually go through the action. Usually this is not a conscious process, but tends to happen anyway so be aware of that. I tend not to tell people of big goals or projects I’m working toward because I do know that I’ve fallen prey to this trap.
Now another method I’ve heard of is pretty unorthodox but still involves a friend. Put enough money in an envelope to be a lot, but not so much if you don’t get it back you’ll be in financial difficulties. Then address the envelope to someone you don’t like. Give that to your friend to hold it hostage and inform them of their mission. Their job is to send that envelope if you fail to make good on your resolution. You could maybe choose an old ex and put in like $100 with a note, I hope you enjoy your next date on me. I’m not saying that they wouldn’t be confused about the gesture, but hey you can prevent from them getting your hard earned cash. Usually you give the envelope to your friend with a fixed date that the envelope is either sent or given back to you depending on your success. I haven’t tried this method, but have heard about this from someone else.
So basically, to make good on your new year’s resolutions, don’t be afraid to aim for the stars, but be reasonable. Don’t be afraid to start slow and work your way up. Remember, it doesn’t need to be immediate, but to get permanence is the goal. Take note if telling friends tends to help or hinder you.
And finally, if all else fails you may just want to try blackmailing yourself which could result in doing something nice for someone else who gets under your skin. Really almost whatever works for you right?